Stress is something many of us have to deal with it on a regular basis, be it in our personal lives or at work. And unfortunately it can affect other areas of our life too – our sex lives in particular.
According to a new study, stress is the biggest cause of issues in the bedroom across the country. The research, conducted by BBC Radio 5 Live, surveyed more than 2,000 British people asking them about their sex lives and relationships.
The results highlighted a clear correlation between stress and bad sex, with 45 percent revealing that stress was a huge problem in the bedroom.
As anyone who has experienced stress will know, the unsettling feeling can come with everything from muscle tension and headaches, to mood swings and sleepless nights – all of which can be very damaging to our sex lives. Most significantly, however, stress can lead to anxiety, which is extremely detrimental to sex.
When asked about the new survey, Relate therapist Ellen Brady told the BBC: ‘We’re seeing an awful lot of clients with anxiety issues – anxiety and sex just doesn’t sit together at all.’
Brady also touched on other significant factors that can lead to bad sex, such as social media. ‘There’s not the basic connection happening in couples, they’re not even making eye contact or talking to each other, so it’s no wonder when they get to bed that sex is difficult,’ she explained.
Advising couples on how to overcome a bad sex stint, the expert added: ‘Ban sex, because whatever you’ve been doing sexually it’s gone wrong, so you want to wipe it out and start again, and just reconnect emotionally and in terms of intimacy.
‘There’s a big gender divide on that one,’ she continued. ‘Because women very often want to buy into emotional intimacy and kisses and cuddles and quite often men don’t see that as a priority, they see sex as the priority.’