Nicole Kidman and husband Keith Urban have just celebrated their 12th wedding anniversary – and speaking to Parade, the actress says that the pair have a rather unusual secret behind the success of their relationship.
‘We’ve never texted,’ she disclosed to the title. ‘That is so not our relationship.’
Nicole added that the couple prefer ‘voice to voice and skin to skin’ contact, explaining: ‘We talk all the time, and we FaceTime, but we just don’t text because I feel like texting can be misrepresentative at times.
‘I’ve had the thing where I re-read texts and I’m like, “What does that mean?,” and then read it to somebody and go, “Can you interpret that?” I don’t want that between my lover and I.’
Nicole and Keith tied the knot with a church ceremony in Nicole’s native Australia back in 2006. They share two daughters: Sunday Rose, aged 9, and seven-year-old Faith Margaret.
Nicole also has a son and a daughter, Connor and Isabella, from her previous marriage to fellow film star Tom Cruise, whom she split from in 2001.
Texting policy aside, Nicole revealed that her union with country music singer Keith works so well because they avoid having secrets, and approach each situation they encounter during their time together with ‘humility and hope.’
‘We love spending time together,’ she said simply. ‘We have a lot of fun together and we just choose each other. If there is one person I can hang out with, it’s him and the girls and that’s it.’
‘That’s so much enough for me. We’ll get on planes and fly overnight rather than have a night apart. We will do anything to make it work.’
To mark their anniversary, Nicole shared previously unseen footage from their big day on her Instagram account, captioning the post: ‘Remembering 12 years ago today at a church in Manly, Australia. Still feels like it was yesterday. I’m a lucky woman ❤ Happy Anniversary Baby.’
Is avoiding texting the key to a happy relationship?
‘Nicole Kidman’s views on texting, although very romantic and idealistic, are very out of touch with how people communicate or even begin their relationship nowadays,’ says Claire Certain, Dating and Trends Expert at happn. ‘In the current digital age, a vast majority of relationships not only rely on texting when apart but there is a whole industry built around dating, with apps where the first point of contact is through messages.’
‘Texting isn’t something that should be feared, but embraced, as it’s beneficial for all stages of a relationship. It’s a great tool for new couples who meet in real life and swap phone numbers to continue talking on text as their relationship progresses. It is also true for most of long term couples, who still text each other instead of calling or using FaceTime, as it is the simplest way to touch base with their partners during a busy day and it allows them to feel connected.’