The five most Googled relationship questions, answered

We turn to Google for lots of (read: most) things – dinner recipe ideas, trip booking (have you seen our insider advice on how to get cheap flights?) and makeup tutorials – and that includes to help us out in our relationships. Relationships can be a tricky thing to talk about, especially if all your friends seem to be navigating theirs with ease, and so it stands to reason that we turn to the internet for answers.

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The question is though, what are other people Googling when it comes to relationships? And how do we get clear advice when there is so much information to wade through online?

To find out, we spoke to relationship expert, Charlene Douglas, to get all the answers in a short, digestible way.

The 5 most Googled relationship questions

1. When is a relationship over?

Around 2,900 people are searching for the answer to this question every single month, and it’s hardly surprising, given that working out when to end a relationship is one of the trickiest parts of a breakup (and a relationship…)

‘A relationship is over when you absolutely know that you have no more to give. Family and friends could advise you to end a relationship, but you’ll know deep down when it’s time to leave,’ Charlene explains.

As she explains later on in this article, doubts are normal, but it’s about weighing up when the doubts outweigh the positives and assessing how real the doubts are.

2. Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?

Over 1,600 people ask whether jealousy is healthy in a relationship and Charlene’s answer, although not black and white, suggests that it could spell bad news: ‘Jealousy is often accompanied with anger and resentment. These emotions create tension in a relationship and can negatively impact intimacy in a relationship.’

However, various relationship experts maintain that mild jealousy can actually be healthy. It illustrates the fact that an individual cares about their partner, values them and does not want to lose them, but we need to be mindful of when this crosses over into obsessive, controlling or stress-inducing thoughts or behaviours.

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3. How does a relationship work?

In at number three, 1,300 people are asking ‘how’ a relationship works each month.

‘A relationship usually involves two people who make a commitment to each other to be together. A relationship requires clear, effective communication and effort to make it work.

‘So often people believe that a relationship should simply work because a couple are in love. It takes more than love to make a relationship work. Honesty, commitment and humility are just some of the ingredients needed to make a relationship successful.’

4. Why does a relationship fail?

In joint third, 1,300 people a month want to know why a relationship might fail. Of course there are almost infinite answers to this but Charlene identifies a key factor.

‘Relationships fail for a number of reasons. From my experience the main reason a relationship fails is because the two people involved have different expectations of what a relationship should be, and are unwilling to compromise and be open to doing things differently,’ she says.

Communication is key here and carving out time to check in to see where you are both at can prevent things spiralling or one, or both, people feeling unheard or unseen.

5. Are relationship doubts normal?

Last but not least, over 200 people a month worry that having doubts about their partner might not be normal, though Charlene is adamant that they are.

‘Relationship doubts are very normal. It’s important though that if there are recurring doubts, that you discuss these with your partner before they become too overwhelming and lead to the end of your relationship,’ she says.