Julia Roberts reveals her secret to a happy marriage

‘What makes a happy marriage?’ is one of the most Googled relationship questions each year, and while we don’t often look to celebrities – a genre notorious for short-lived unions – we’re breaking with tradition and heeding the advice of none other than Julia Roberts.

Julia Roberts on the red carpet
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The Notting Hill star has been with her husband, cinematographer Daniel Moder, for 20 years and, last night (18 April) during her appearance on The Late Show, was asked to share the secret behind such a long-enduring marriage.

But rather than give a long-winded, hard-to-follow explanation, the actor got straight to the point with her relationship advice, and revealed that the secret behind her own happy marriage was ‘kissing’.

‘Well, you would know the answer to that as well,’ she told host Stephen Colbert, who has been married to his wife Evelyn McGee-Colbert for 28 years, and so the pair agreed to reveal their answers on the count of three.

Roberts advised ‘kissing’ was the key, at the same time as Colbert revealed that ‘apologise’ was his tried and tested method for keeping a marriage, or any relationship, in good shape.

In response to Julia’s advice, Colbert added: ‘Well, I would like to apologise to my wife for not saying “kissing”.’

And fans of the show were quick to agree with the pair, taking to Twitter to join in the conversation. ‘You’re both right. It takes kissing and apologising, throw in respect. Aweeeee love is just so romantic. That’s what we all want,’ wrote one user.

Another simply added: ‘Kissing is a good one.’

On further reflection, there’s quite a lot of science behind kissing helping to keep a marriage happy and healthy. According to experts, ‘Kissing influences neurotransmitters and hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which also play a significant role in our relationships.’

Oxytocin, for example, is linked with feelings of closeness, intimacy, and security. Showing affection with people you love can boost oxytocin

You can watch the clip below, and, in the meantime, we’ll be adding lip balm to our shopping list and preparing to pucker up.